is it well with my soul?

If you’ve been around church at some point in your life, you have most likely heard the song “It is Well with My Soul”.  I don’t remember a time when I didn’t know the words to this song.  It’s a great song to sing in four part harmony, (I love hearing my dad sing bass) and it’s a song full of truth. But, since Paxton left, I have had to ask myself is it really well with my soul?

The story behind the song is heartbreaking.  Horatio Spafford was a successful attorney and real estate investor.  In 1871, he lost his fortune in the great Chicago fire and his four year old son died of scarlet fever.  In 1873, he sent his wife and four daughters on a trip to England thinking it would do them good to get away.  He planned to join them after he wrapped up some business.  Tragically, the ship his family was on sank after colliding with another vessel, and all four of his daughters were killed. 

The story I’ve always heard is as he traveled to England to be with his wife, the captain showed him the spot where his daughters’ ship went down and he immediately wrote the lyrics to the song.  As I researched further, I learned he reportedly said “it is well, the will of God be done” at that time, but didn’t write the actual song until three years later.  That makes so much more sense to me.  I was wondering how he was able to write those words in the immediate aftermath of such a staggering loss. 

I believe the words of this song are true, but it doesn’t always feel that way.  When I view this song through the lens of eternity, it is well with my soul.  When I take my eyes off Jesus and view this song through the lens of my humanity, it is not well with my soul.

~Paxton is with Jesus – it is well with my soul

~I spent the weekend packing up Paxton’s room trying to decide what to keep and what to let go of – it is not well with my soul

~Owen and Jenna are amazing kids and bring me joy every day – it is well with my soul

~No 18 or 16 year old should ever have to see their little brother in a casket – it is not well with my soul.

~One day death will be no more – it is well with my soul

~Until then, there is pain and suffering – it is not well with my soul

~Paxton is fully healed – it is well with my soul

~My heart will ache the rest of my life for just one more of his hugs – it is not well with my soul

I’m sure Horatio Spafford knew and believed the words he would write three years after the loss of his daughters.  I understand the weight it carries when people hear that he wrote it so soon after their deaths.  I think it’s so much more profound that it took him three years to be able to write and sing the truth.  He didn’t lose his faith in God, but his grief shaped him and took him on a journey…one of loss, pain, wrestling and trust.  Because of Jesus’s sacrifice and the hope of eternity, he knew that it was well with his soul, even when things were hard.

I sat down to write this today fully prepared to talk about this song from a different angle.  When I read that he actually wrote it three years after losing his daughters, it took my breath away and brought tears to my eyes, an unexpected God Kiss.  I am three years into my journey…one of loss, pain, wrestling and trust.  It is still hard to sing sometimes.  I am still wrestling, but I have a new understanding of the song and Horatio Spafford.  This life is hard.  Living without Paxton is unbearable at times.  Sometimes I lose sight of eternity and wonder how it could ever be well with my soul. I may not always feel the words are true, but because of Jesus’s sacrifice and the hope of eternity, I can say it is well with my soul, even when things are hard.

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how can it be well with my soul?

because of the cross

I have hope

You’ll never let me go

I know one day

things of the earth

will pass away

so I tell myself

it is well

to remind my heart

of who You are

when things are hard

when heaven seems so far

if fix my eyes on Christ

and the promises He made

it is well

even on the toughest days

when peace is my friend

or when grief threatens

to swallow me whole

because of Jesus’s sacrifice

and the hope of eternity

I can and will say

it is well

it is well

with my soul